Self-sabotage. Resistance Lack of motivation. Distraction.
Whatever it is that keeps you from moving towards what you want (or even makes you move AWAY from it!), that behavior is responsible for keeping you from having what you want – it’s holding you back in life, and it’s keeping you single.
And we ALL do it! It’s not just singles, it’s not just guys, it’s NOT just you.
How do I know?
I have many guys in my program right now who had spent most of their life self-sabotaging and had no idea why. They were held back by anxiety, fear of rejection, negative relationship patterns, and painful past experiences. Once they begin working with me not only their relationship with women changes, but they get more self-confident, more optimistic, more hopeful, and more ATTRACTIVE to the right women.
So, what does this sabotage look like, how do we recognize it in ourselves? Here are a few ideas to help you see how you’re holding yourself back:
1) Avoiding help
The truth is that most of us would rather try to solve our problems on our own. It is intimidating and uncomfortable to share them with other people, speak them out loud, it makes it real in a way. It’s easier just to sit and read these e-mails and think about the information than to get on a call with me, join a program and CHANGE. Being happy takes work. Is it worth it, for you?
2) Thinking things are going to change on their own
Every day I see people continuing doggedly along down their path doing the same things that AREN’T working! If what you’re doing is giving you results you don’t want, then you have to change something! Otherwise you’re doing the same things and expecting a different result – insanity.
3) Listening to the advice of friends and family
They’re your family and of course they want to help you. But the fact of the matter is that most people only give “advice” based on their own limited experience and it’s almost never relevant to your specific situation. It’s what THEY think you should do, based on THEIR knowledge of you and your problem and THEIR life experience. That’s a lot of variables.
First of all, you’re smart – if whatever is keeping you single were something you could figure out with your head you would have done so already! Right?! So how could your friends and family have insights about your life that you haven’t figured out already? They have even less information about the situation than you do!
The fact of the matter is this is not something you can figure out with your head, which is why I can help.
I have a proven process that I have used with massive success over the last 15 years. This process is designed to put you in touch with the deeper levels of your subconscious where the self-sabotage exists. Because consciously you want what you want, right? So if you aren’t getting it then there is something underneath the surface that is working against you – and until you address it you will stay stuck right where you are.
So what are you telling yourself now that’s keeping you from moving forward in this area of life?
“Dominey can’t help me, no one can.”
“She’s just trying to get my money.”
“I will be alone forever, why even bother getting my hopes up?”
“I need to work with someone in person.”
None of these things are true, but they if you believe them then they will be strong enough to keep you stuck in your rut. Whatever shape your self-sabotage is taking, you can recognize it by simply asking whether it is moving you TOWARDS what you want, or away from it. Help is in front of you. It’s as simple as that.
If you’re ready to create REAL change – to finally kick your personal style of self-sabotage to the curb and learn exactly how to create a lasting, fulfilling relationship, then follow the link below. It will lead you to a short video of me talking about who I am and what I do, and then it will give you the chance to schedule the time to get on a call with me or my highly trained team and we will chat about how we can help.
I am helping men work through relationship issues they’ve carried for decades, every day. Are you ready to be free?